I am now well into my post-law school life and I have been reflecting on the difference in my life after law school. I have been blessed with a pretty good road after my graduation from law school. Despite a little hiccup with my first bar exam and needing to retake the exam in February 2020 (I passed!), my life has been really great. I secured a wonderful job with my law school, my husband and I bought our dream farm, I have time for hobbies and creativity again and my stress level is significantly lower. I want to go through all the emotions and thoughts I have gone through after law school. While I am very happy now, the road after law school has not been perfectly smooth and based on conversations with fellow law grad's, I think that is pretty normal.
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Wednesday, May 15, 2019
My Schedule for Bar Exam Prep
Hump day!!! All I can think about is the camel commercial whenever I say or hear hump day.
Back to actual blogging though, today I am sharing my schedule for bar exam prep. Now that I have graduated from law school, my next hurdle is the dreaded bar exam. For those who don't know, the bar exam is a state-specific test that must be passed in order to be licensed to practice law in that particular state. It tests you on relevant law in that state as well as a combined group of legal subjects that you likely took in law school. So basically it is a 2-3 day test on everything you learned in law school plus some more. Shoot me now...
To prepare for the bar exam, a majority of people utilize a bar prep course. These are commercial resources which layout what you need to learn, how you need to learn it and everything else you need to know to have the best shot at passing the bar exam.
Personally, I am taking the Ohio bar exam at the end of July. I am prepping for the bar exam with the Themis Bar Review Course. For the next 2.5 months, I am basically studying all day every day.
In order to form a routine and to try to keep some normality in my life, I have formulated a study schedule for my bar prep time.
As you can see, most of my time is allotted to bar exam prep and studying. Additionally, I have allotted time for study group with friends also studying for the bar. I thrive in study group situations so I know this is something I need to do to be successful.
Further, I have allotted a lot of time to running and yoga- sitting in a chair all day drives me crazy and I need to be active. Running in the morning helps me to be more still throughout the day and doing yoga helps ease my tight muscles and stress. It is always good to be active for both physical and mental health.
I also left time for blogging and relaxing because it is important to take time to yourself and to do things you enjoy. Studying for the bar exam is a marathon, not a sprint. If I go to hard in the beginning, I will burn out before the exam. Slow, steady and diligent will win this race.
Some other things I am keeping in mind during bar prep is eating well, sleeping well and staying positive. I am stocking the house with only healthy snacks (ok and a little chocolate because that is a requirement) and keeping a water bottle next to me at all times! My husband has been cooking a lot of healthy dinners and making enough so I can have leftovers for lunch the next day. I have been going to bed at a reasonable time (ok, most of the time) and trying to get up relatively early so I have a normal schedule.
I am a week and a half into bar prep and so far it isn't horrible. BUT, if anyone has ANY tips for bar prep, I am happy to get them all! Thank you!
Back to actual blogging though, today I am sharing my schedule for bar exam prep. Now that I have graduated from law school, my next hurdle is the dreaded bar exam. For those who don't know, the bar exam is a state-specific test that must be passed in order to be licensed to practice law in that particular state. It tests you on relevant law in that state as well as a combined group of legal subjects that you likely took in law school. So basically it is a 2-3 day test on everything you learned in law school plus some more. Shoot me now...
To prepare for the bar exam, a majority of people utilize a bar prep course. These are commercial resources which layout what you need to learn, how you need to learn it and everything else you need to know to have the best shot at passing the bar exam.
Personally, I am taking the Ohio bar exam at the end of July. I am prepping for the bar exam with the Themis Bar Review Course. For the next 2.5 months, I am basically studying all day every day.
In order to form a routine and to try to keep some normality in my life, I have formulated a study schedule for my bar prep time.
As you can see, most of my time is allotted to bar exam prep and studying. Additionally, I have allotted time for study group with friends also studying for the bar. I thrive in study group situations so I know this is something I need to do to be successful.
Further, I have allotted a lot of time to running and yoga- sitting in a chair all day drives me crazy and I need to be active. Running in the morning helps me to be more still throughout the day and doing yoga helps ease my tight muscles and stress. It is always good to be active for both physical and mental health.
I also left time for blogging and relaxing because it is important to take time to yourself and to do things you enjoy. Studying for the bar exam is a marathon, not a sprint. If I go to hard in the beginning, I will burn out before the exam. Slow, steady and diligent will win this race.
Some other things I am keeping in mind during bar prep is eating well, sleeping well and staying positive. I am stocking the house with only healthy snacks (ok and a little chocolate because that is a requirement) and keeping a water bottle next to me at all times! My husband has been cooking a lot of healthy dinners and making enough so I can have leftovers for lunch the next day. I have been going to bed at a reasonable time (ok, most of the time) and trying to get up relatively early so I have a normal schedule.
I am a week and a half into bar prep and so far it isn't horrible. BUT, if anyone has ANY tips for bar prep, I am happy to get them all! Thank you!
Thursday, May 9, 2019
A Reflection on Completing Law School
The fact that I am now a law school graduate is absolutely surreal. Even though the Dean hooded me, I was handed a diploma and I got to switch my tassel, I simply do not feel like I am a Juris Doctor now.

I have been dreaming of this since I as in about 4th grade. I spend most of my life to this point working singlemindedly toward this goal. Do well in High School so you get into college, do well in college so you have a good GPA, get involved so you have a solid resume for law school applications, crush the LSAT, pick a law school, excel in law school, complete internships... graduate and become a Lawyer. After all that, I am finally here and it feels just a little bit hollow.
I know that sounds crazy; I just achieved my dream, how could I be anything but ecstatic?? Well, there is something about finishing law school that leaves me without a clear direction for the first time in my life. My whole life has been planned down to the details so that I would make it to law school. Now, my life is full of unknowns. I don't know if I will pass the bar exam or not. I do not know if I will find my dream job right away. I don't know if my husband and I will stay in Toledo or if we will move. I don't know when we should have kids. I don't know a lot of things right now... and that's okay.
As much as I struggle to not have a plan, I know that everything will eventually work out. I will pass the bar, I will find a job, I will end up with the life I have dreamed of. For those of us who are type A, planners, and mildly OCD, it is hard to go through life with unknowns. My plan for right now is to wake up every day and remind myself that I conquered my goals already and I can conquer future goals as well. I just need to take it one day at a time.
The other reason I am feeling a little hollow is that law school is over for me. As hard as it was, I loved law school. Throughout law school, I was challenged academically for the first time in my life and as hard as that was to get used to, I learned to thrive on it. I love learning new things every day and using my brain to its full capacity. Throughout law school, I made amazing friends and connections. Like any stage in life, some friends fade away and some become those you can't live without and I got a little of both during law school. But, it taught me more about myself and what to look for in friendship and I am walking away with some friends for a lifetime and that is a precious thing. Throughout law school, I was able to put the law into action through internships and clinics. This taught me that the practice of law is a noble, albeit flawed, profession that I can't wait to be a part of. Throughout law school, I found strengths within myself that I was unaware of. I realized I have a gift for public speaking and oral argument that I had never previously explored. I realized that I enjoy other subjects beyond criminal law. Throughout law school, I learned how to fail for the first time in my life and it was the most humbling and also worthwhile lesson.
I was absolutely blessed to attend a law school that felt like a family. The University of Toledo College of Law was my home for three years and I truly loved my time there. It is a place where professors start class with AC/DC, wear a helmet while teaching to show a reasonably prudent person, and dance to helps us learn contracts. It is a place where staff will update the facebook group with outcoming grades to help ease student stress. It is a place where the Dean knows everyone's names and will let you pie him in the face to raise money for charity. It is a place where the student body shuns the idea of "cut-throat" law school and instead embraces the idea that we are one big family and law school is way more fun if we get along. It is a place full of free pizza, the never empty library candy bowl and a Lexis table every week with free coffee and tea.
When I remember that I do not get to return to UT Law this fall, it just makes me sad. I will truly miss my law school, my professors, my friends and my favorite chair in the Moot Court lounge. But, to quote a famous and fitting phrase, "How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard"- Winnie the Pooh.
I could not be prouder to be an Alum of the University of Toledo College of Law and I am so thankful that I got to spend 3 amazing, challenging, empowering, difficult and enjoyable years there.
I have been dreaming of this since I as in about 4th grade. I spend most of my life to this point working singlemindedly toward this goal. Do well in High School so you get into college, do well in college so you have a good GPA, get involved so you have a solid resume for law school applications, crush the LSAT, pick a law school, excel in law school, complete internships... graduate and become a Lawyer. After all that, I am finally here and it feels just a little bit hollow.
I know that sounds crazy; I just achieved my dream, how could I be anything but ecstatic?? Well, there is something about finishing law school that leaves me without a clear direction for the first time in my life. My whole life has been planned down to the details so that I would make it to law school. Now, my life is full of unknowns. I don't know if I will pass the bar exam or not. I do not know if I will find my dream job right away. I don't know if my husband and I will stay in Toledo or if we will move. I don't know when we should have kids. I don't know a lot of things right now... and that's okay.
As much as I struggle to not have a plan, I know that everything will eventually work out. I will pass the bar, I will find a job, I will end up with the life I have dreamed of. For those of us who are type A, planners, and mildly OCD, it is hard to go through life with unknowns. My plan for right now is to wake up every day and remind myself that I conquered my goals already and I can conquer future goals as well. I just need to take it one day at a time.
The other reason I am feeling a little hollow is that law school is over for me. As hard as it was, I loved law school. Throughout law school, I was challenged academically for the first time in my life and as hard as that was to get used to, I learned to thrive on it. I love learning new things every day and using my brain to its full capacity. Throughout law school, I made amazing friends and connections. Like any stage in life, some friends fade away and some become those you can't live without and I got a little of both during law school. But, it taught me more about myself and what to look for in friendship and I am walking away with some friends for a lifetime and that is a precious thing. Throughout law school, I was able to put the law into action through internships and clinics. This taught me that the practice of law is a noble, albeit flawed, profession that I can't wait to be a part of. Throughout law school, I found strengths within myself that I was unaware of. I realized I have a gift for public speaking and oral argument that I had never previously explored. I realized that I enjoy other subjects beyond criminal law. Throughout law school, I learned how to fail for the first time in my life and it was the most humbling and also worthwhile lesson.
I was absolutely blessed to attend a law school that felt like a family. The University of Toledo College of Law was my home for three years and I truly loved my time there. It is a place where professors start class with AC/DC, wear a helmet while teaching to show a reasonably prudent person, and dance to helps us learn contracts. It is a place where staff will update the facebook group with outcoming grades to help ease student stress. It is a place where the Dean knows everyone's names and will let you pie him in the face to raise money for charity. It is a place where the student body shuns the idea of "cut-throat" law school and instead embraces the idea that we are one big family and law school is way more fun if we get along. It is a place full of free pizza, the never empty library candy bowl and a Lexis table every week with free coffee and tea.
When I remember that I do not get to return to UT Law this fall, it just makes me sad. I will truly miss my law school, my professors, my friends and my favorite chair in the Moot Court lounge. But, to quote a famous and fitting phrase, "How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard"- Winnie the Pooh.
I could not be prouder to be an Alum of the University of Toledo College of Law and I am so thankful that I got to spend 3 amazing, challenging, empowering, difficult and enjoyable years there.
Monday, May 6, 2019
Post Finals and Graduation Celebration GIVEAWAY
Happy Monday!
This weekend I graduated from Law School... it is absolutely surreal.
Today I begin studying for the Bar Exam with Themis Bar Review. As unexciting as that is, I know that this time is only temporary and it will be worth it.
In more exciting news, I have a super exciting announcement:
To celebrate the end of another round of final exams and the fact that I graduated from law school this past weekend, I am launching a giveaway on Instagram!
In order to win, you must follow all instructions below. The randomly drawn winner will receive:
This weekend I graduated from Law School... it is absolutely surreal.
Today I begin studying for the Bar Exam with Themis Bar Review. As unexciting as that is, I know that this time is only temporary and it will be worth it.
In more exciting news, I have a super exciting announcement:
To celebrate the end of another round of final exams and the fact that I graduated from law school this past weekend, I am launching a giveaway on Instagram!
In order to win, you must follow all instructions below. The randomly drawn winner will receive:
- A pair of blue light blocking glasses
- A ceramic mug that says "Trust me I'm almost a lawyer"
- A double insulated tumbler that keeps hot drinks warm for 8 hours and cold drinks cold for 18 hours
- A cute journal
- A glass water bottle
Instructions for entering:
- Follow @thelegalduchess on Instagram
- Like the giveaway photo on Instagram
- Comment on the giveaway photo on Instagram and tag 1 friend who needs to celebrate the end of law school finals!
- Optional extra entries: for every extra friend you tag, you get an extra entry & if you share the giveaway on your Instagram or Instagram story, you get an extra entry
Monday, April 15, 2019
Choosing Courses Throughout Law School
Happy Monday!!!
This is the first Monday in my final week of academic classes EVER. In addition to sharing that happy news, I am sharing all the tips and tricks I have learned about choosing and scheduling your courses throughout law school. I have had several people request a post on this topic so I hope it is helpful.
As most law students know, there are a series of classes that the ABA requires every law student to take in order to graduate. Additionally, there are a series of classes that will be tested on the state bar you choose to take that are highly recommended. Beyond that, you can choose to take whatever classes interest you.
Wednesday, March 13, 2019
How to Approach and Connect with Professors
I have had several requests for a post on approaching and connecting with your law school professors. I totally understand why people wonder about this- it is so easy to be intimidated by law school professors when you first start law school. These people are so smart and accomplished and it is hard to feel like you can approach them when you feel like you know absolutely nothing. However, if you never overcome this, you will miss out on a really beneficial process of learning from the professor and connecting with them outside of class as potential references.
The connections I have made with professors during law school has been one of my favorite parts of the process. Beyond the fact that I learn so much from them, my professors have helped me with issues in my personal and professional life. Getting over being intimidated allowed me to get to know my professors and form connections that lead to much better references. Here are my tips for approaching and connecting with your law school professors.
Wednesday, February 6, 2019
Tips for Legal Research and Writing
Happy Hump day!
Today I am coming at you with a highly requested post about research and writing in law school. I will preface this with saying I am not the best researcher or writer at my law school and I am okay with that. I have learned a process for research and writing which gives me a solid end product that is correct and respectable.
It has not been easy; I really struggled during my 1L year with research and writing like a lawyer and moving away from the style of writing that had worked well for me in all previous schooling. For anyone else out there who is not naturally good at legal research and writing, I hope this is helpful to you and you can learn from my mistakes and hard-earned lessons.
Today I am coming at you with a highly requested post about research and writing in law school. I will preface this with saying I am not the best researcher or writer at my law school and I am okay with that. I have learned a process for research and writing which gives me a solid end product that is correct and respectable.
It has not been easy; I really struggled during my 1L year with research and writing like a lawyer and moving away from the style of writing that had worked well for me in all previous schooling. For anyone else out there who is not naturally good at legal research and writing, I hope this is helpful to you and you can learn from my mistakes and hard-earned lessons.
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Thursday, January 31, 2019
How to Choose a Bar Prep Company
THE BAR EXAM
Words that strike a small sense of terror into every law student. The test that determines whether or not you will be allowed to practice law. The test that quite literally determines your future. If you want to be a lawyer and you are not thinking about the bar exam, you should start now.
My law school starting prepping us for the bar exam right in orientation. Bar exam passage has been low universally among all law schools the last few years so they wanted us to start off strong and do everything we could to prepare over our three years in law school for the bar exam. The strategies they implemented included requiring all students to complete classes in bar tested subjects, multiple choice questions on all exams, semester check in's on where we should be in our bar prep process and a professor dedicated to helping us with bar exam questions.
One of the most important parts of the bar examination process is choosing a company for your bar exam preparation course. Basically, if you graduate in May and take the bar exam in July, you spend those 3 months studying basically nonstop for the exam. The most effective way to do this is with an intensive commercial bar preparation course. Some of the most popular companies are Themis, Barbri, and Kaplan. These intensive bar preparation courses provide you will condensed instruction on the relevant black letter law, practice multiple choice questions, practice essay questions, essay grading, support staff and test-taking strategies to excel on the exam.
Tuesday, January 15, 2019
All About the MPRE
I bet some of you 1L's out there won't even recognize the term MPRE... I know I had no idea what it was until like my 2L year. Turns out, it is something you have to take and pass in almost every state in order to sit for the Bar exam. I am posting this to help others know and understand the MPRE before it's upon you.
It has been a while since I took the MPRE but I hope this overview helps those of your out there wondering exactly what the MPRE is and how to prepare to pass it.
Thursday, January 10, 2019
A Week by Week Study Schedule
Happy Thursday!
This post come s by request and I think it will be super helpful. I have alluded to my weekly study schedule in the past but I have never devoted a whole post to it so that is what's on tap for today.
Figuring out what you need to study and work on week to week in law school can be challenging. There is always a ton of stuff to do and just so many hours in which to complete it. I am sharing the study schedule which has worked well for me over my 2.5 years in law school. I have honed it to what works perfectly for me. I hope you find it helpful as well!
Here is a sample look at my week to week study schedule. This is what I do during the majority of my semester until about a month before finals. Then I integrate more study time to prepare for finals. More on that in this post: PREPARING FOR LAW SCHOOL EXAMS ONE MONTH OUT
This post come s by request and I think it will be super helpful. I have alluded to my weekly study schedule in the past but I have never devoted a whole post to it so that is what's on tap for today.
Figuring out what you need to study and work on week to week in law school can be challenging. There is always a ton of stuff to do and just so many hours in which to complete it. I am sharing the study schedule which has worked well for me over my 2.5 years in law school. I have honed it to what works perfectly for me. I hope you find it helpful as well!
Here is a sample look at my week to week study schedule. This is what I do during the majority of my semester until about a month before finals. Then I integrate more study time to prepare for finals. More on that in this post: PREPARING FOR LAW SCHOOL EXAMS ONE MONTH OUT
Monday, January 7, 2019
Tips for Getting Back into Studying After Break
Well... Christmas break is over. Sad, sad day. Today is my first day of the new semester... it is also the last time I will EVER SAY THAT! HALLELUJAH!
Because it is time to go back to school after a glorious, relaxing break, I am going to share my best tips for getting back into the study grind after a break. It is never easy to get motivated to back to classes and homework after break time. However, there are ways to make the transition easier. Here are my top tips.
Because it is time to go back to school after a glorious, relaxing break, I am going to share my best tips for getting back into the study grind after a break. It is never easy to get motivated to back to classes and homework after break time. However, there are ways to make the transition easier. Here are my top tips.
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Monday, November 26, 2018
10 Essentials for a Productive Library Study Session
Good morning!
Is it just me or did the semester FLY by?! Exams are going to be here so fast.
My exam study habits have not changed much since 1L year. I pack up all my stuff and hunker down in a library study room for hours upon hours with my study group or on my own. It is not much fun but I find it to be the most productive study environment for me. My library study sessions are long and I like to be prepared. Therefore, I carry everything but the kitchen sink with me: books, snacks, blankets and sometimes even a tiny humidifier (yep- I am THAT extra and study rooms can be very dry). I have compiled a list of the 10 essential items I have to have for my library study sessions. This list is not all-inclusive (I bring lots of other crap too) but it is the big stuff that I CANNOT leave home without when I am heading into the library to get some work done.
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Monday, November 5, 2018
Law School Q & A
Happy Monday!!
I have seen a few other bloggers do something like this so I thought I would give it a try. I have done quite a few questions and answer sessions on Instagram and they seem pretty popular. But, I know not all of my followers are on Instagram and have not participated in one of my question and answer sessions in Instagram stories. I decided to take all the questions I have gotten and compile them into one big blog post that everyone can see!
The topics of the questions range from LSAT and application concerns to lots of during law school questions and beyond. I am going to sort them into a few Catagories to make it easier to navigate.
I hope this is helpful :)
Wednesday, October 31, 2018
Preparing for Law School Exams One Month Out
Happy Halloween!
I am currently dressed up as Elle Woods, including carrying a stuffed Chihuahua, because I realized this is my last chance to do that as a law student and let's be honest, Elle Woods is our queen.
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Wednesday, October 10, 2018
Tips for Managing Stress in Law School
Happy Hump Day Y'all!
In case you didn't know, it is Law School Mental Health Day (it's also generally Mental Health Day so this applies to everyone). I think it is so great that law schools and the larger legal community are getting better about encouraging mental health in law students. Law school is so hard... it stresses you physically and emotionally. Historically, law school existed with a culture of "weed out the people who can't stand up to the challenge" and was pretty unforgiving (watch The Paper Chase on Netflix to see what I mean). I think the trend has moved in a positive direction to have more academic help available, encouraging a balance between law school and regular life and encouraging students to take care of their physical and mental wellbeing.
During my own law school journey, my mental health has been at an all-time low. The stress and pressure of law school have on more than one occasion sent me into a downward spiral and I have had more panic attacks than I care to admit. I can't even count the number of times I have had an emotional breakdown in front of my husband and told him I wanted to give up on this crazy lawyer dream. If anyone ever tells you that law school is easy, they are either lying or crazy. Law school is really hard and really stressful but there are so many ways to handle it and get through it.
Today, I am coming at you with a highly requested blog post on managing stress in law school (or life in general). I am not going to say I am an expert at managing stress (I am far from it), but now that I have reached my 3L year, I do think I have learned some quality coping tips.
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Tuesday, September 25, 2018
How I Pull Myself Out of a No-Motivation Rut
Happy Tuesday!
If anyone has been following my Instagram stories lately, you might have noticed that I have been in a little bit of a "rut". It's the 5th week of classes, I've been fighting a little bit of a head cold, I have a million things going on, work is getting busy, we are trying to get projects done around the house before the weather turns and I have just been feeling blah. I come home and just want to do nothing but sit on the couch and watch TV and avoid my responsibilities.... hence, I am in a no-motivation rut.
I feel like I hit a rut like this every semester at some point. Once the excitement of starting a new semester wears off and the hype of exams hasn't set in yet, I get super burnt out and unmotivated for a time. However, I really don't have time to give in to this. I am a busy law student and lazy time is not built into the schedule. As this has happened to me several times, I have established a little routine for pulling myself out of the rut. It might not work for everyone, but this does work for me!
Thursday, September 13, 2018
How to Survive Commuting to Law School
Hello friends!
This is a highly requested post that has taken me a little while to compile information for because it is not something I have personal experience with. I do not commute a large distance to law school- I have about a 15 minutes drive. I know that many people have to commute to law school (or grad school of any kind) and I can imagine it would be difficult on top of an already busy and exhausting schedule. Though I do not have personal experience, I polled a few of my super successful classmates who commute to law school for the information found in this post. Though this is not my own thoughts or opinions, I trust the people who I talked to implicitly and I think their advice is very valuable as they have all managed to commute through law school while still doing amazing in school. Sometimes I quote them directly and sometimes I summarized but overall, I hope this is helpful to those who are currently commuting to law school or those considering it in the future.
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Thursday, September 6, 2018
What it is like Being Married to a Law Student
Hello everyone!
Today we have a fun post from a different point of view- my wonderful hubby is guest posting! I have had several people ask for more posts on what it is like to be married while in law school. I thought it would be interesting to see the other point of view- what is it really like to be married to and to live with a full-time law student? I am sure there are lots of spouses/boyfriends/girlfriends out there who wonder what it is like to live with and deal with a full-time law student. I successfully bugged my husband until he agreed to do this post.
A little background: my husband and I got married the summer before I started law school. We were still very fresh newlyweds living together for the first time when I began my 1L year. It has not always been easy to balance marriage and the demands of law school and I know it has been hard of my husband. To his credit, he is has been a trooper. He puts up with my constant studying, listens to all of my whining and complaining about classes and makes sure I eat and sleep during final exams. I am beyond lucky to have such a wonderful partner beside me throughout this journey!
Now without further ado, I turn the keyboard over to my wonderful hubby!
Hello blog-people. I am the husband of this situation. My wife won't stop bugging me to write this so I finally caved. Maybe it will help future law student husbands or wives or boyfriends or girlfriends. I have 5 tips for being married to and living with a law student. It is not a walk in the park but I am still happily married after 2 years so it is possible.
Today we have a fun post from a different point of view- my wonderful hubby is guest posting! I have had several people ask for more posts on what it is like to be married while in law school. I thought it would be interesting to see the other point of view- what is it really like to be married to and to live with a full-time law student? I am sure there are lots of spouses/boyfriends/girlfriends out there who wonder what it is like to live with and deal with a full-time law student. I successfully bugged my husband until he agreed to do this post.
A little background: my husband and I got married the summer before I started law school. We were still very fresh newlyweds living together for the first time when I began my 1L year. It has not always been easy to balance marriage and the demands of law school and I know it has been hard of my husband. To his credit, he is has been a trooper. He puts up with my constant studying, listens to all of my whining and complaining about classes and makes sure I eat and sleep during final exams. I am beyond lucky to have such a wonderful partner beside me throughout this journey!
Now without further ado, I turn the keyboard over to my wonderful hubby!
Hello blog-people. I am the husband of this situation. My wife won't stop bugging me to write this so I finally caved. Maybe it will help future law student husbands or wives or boyfriends or girlfriends. I have 5 tips for being married to and living with a law student. It is not a walk in the park but I am still happily married after 2 years so it is possible.
Saturday, August 25, 2018
How Different is Law School from College
Happy Saturday!
For all of those who finished their first week of law school- CONGRATS! Isn't that a great feeling?
I was having a conversation with some of the new 1L's at my school the other day about how law school is different from undergrad. I thought I would type up my thoughts on the subject as a blog post because this is a question I have gotten quite often from prospective law students while I give tours at my law school.
Law school is in a league all it's own. There is really no way to "prepare" yourself for it.... even if you were a pre-law student in undergrad, law school is going to be very different from anything you have ever done. I think this is good and bad; on the plus side, it is a fresh start and provides an opportunity to reinvent yourself in preparation of a legal career and everyone comes in in the same position... on the negative side, it involves a lot of trial and error to figure out how to be a good law student. I found that law school was vastly different from undergrad in both good and bad ways. Here are a few of the biggest differences.
1. You MUST Prepare for Class
Maybe others are different but I was able to get by in undergrad without ever truly preparing for class and I still got really good grades and graduated Magna Cum Laude. I would read in the 10 minutes before class or do a quick skim while the professor was saying hello to the class or sometimes I would just show up and hope for the best. Don't get me wrong, I studied for exams and spent some time on my papers to make sure I turned in something halfway decent but for class, I was able to get by without ever really preparing for classes.
If I have said it once on this blog, I have said it a million times: In Law School, you really have to prepare for class. Like extensively. Before class, I do the reading, I take reading notes and I make sure to do one last skim in the last few minutes before class. Because many law professors cold call during class, you never know when you will be expected to answer questions on the reading material. Also, law school classes are intense and without reading before class, it can be very difficult to keep up in class. I had a professor during my first week of 1L year tell us that you need to work like it's finals week from the first day of law school. To me, that means making sure I am 110% prepared for classes and any potential cold calls, keeping up on my notes and outlining, and going to the professors when I am feeling confused about something.
More: HOW TO BE PREPARED FOR A LAW SCHOOL CLASS
2. One Exam = Your Whole Grade
So this might be my least favorite think about law school... right behind core grammar from 1L year. In almost every law school class, one final exam at the end of the semester over the entire course will make up your entire grade. Prior to law school, I had never been graded in this format. In undergrad, my grades were always based on a variety of assignments, quizzes, tests, and papers. None of my undergrad professors graded on a curve. It seriously stressed me out when I realized that my entire grade in law school boiled down to one gigantic exam. It takes some getting used to and through the semester, you have to stay self-accountable to prepare for the exam because generally there won't be quizzes, tests or assignments to keep you on track as there are in undergrad classes. (I have had midterms in a handful of my classes but they are the distinct minority and a few of my classes count participation into the grade but it is only like 3-5% of the total while the rest is from the exam). I think what stressed me out the most was knowing that if I had a bad day on exam day, my entire grade would suffer.... and the two straight weeks of non-stop study are pretty unpleasant. But I have survived it and gotten used to it... I won't say it is fun but you just have to power through and make it happen.
As for grades, they are not the end all be all of your legal careers. Most law school classes are graded on a curve and only so many A's are given out. This can be very frustrating because you can complete what feels like an A exam and still get a B+ because the curve was tight in that class. But, it is not the end of the world. One bad grade doesn't kill you and it's all relative. In some classes, I feel I deserved higher grades and in other classes, I was surprised my grade was so high. But at the end of the day, if you work hard, do your absolute best and learn something from the experience, then you have done all you can.
3. Professionalism Matters
There is nothing wrong with wearing leggings and a baggy sweatshirt in undergrad. In fact, it was pretty much my entire wardrobe. Showing up late to class in undergrad may be embarrassing but most professors don't really care. You can online shop all through class and generally, it doesn't matter. I also didn't really think about the bigger picture and any career stuff other than getting into law school.
Law school is different- from day one of orientation, they will be preaching professionalism at you. Your legal career begins the day you start law school. And all that other stuff I talked about above should probably come to an end. You never know when lawyers will be in the law school so I always dress presentably for class in law school. I refuse to be late to any of my law school classes. I generally don't even use my computer in classes for law school. Also, from day one you have to be thinking about your professionalism, your future internships and jobs and character and fitness for the bar. Law school is in a whole other league of professionalism from undergrad.
4. Time Management is a Thing
I don't know about everyone else but I kept myself pretty busy in undergrad. I was a varsity athlete, I had a job, I had two majors, I lived on my own all four years, I was in a bunch of organizations and held leadership roles, and I planned my wedding. However, I was horrible at managing my time because I could get away with procrastinating on my homework and other stuff in favor of watching High School Musical with my roommates or going to a party.
Law school has forced me to actually learn some time management skills. There are just so many things going on and so many hours in a day and procrastinating is simply not an option. I have really had to get regimented about my time and my responsibilities because I am pulled in a million directions. I take a full course load, I work in admissions, I am on Moot Court, I coordinate the oral advocacy competition at my school, I am president of the Criminal Law Society, I am Clerk for our schools chapter of Phi Alpha Delta, I mentor 1L's through SBA, I participate in a legal clinic with my own clients as a certified intern, I have a part-time job as a social media manager, I blog, and I have a house, husband and 3 dogs to keep up with. Keeping all the things organized and getting everything done is no small task but it is manageable as long as you manage your time. I am actually really glad that law school has forced me to become so good at managing my time because that is just a great life skill to master.
More: TIPS FOR TIME MANAGEMENT IN LAW SCHOOL
5. It's a bit of a Flashback to High School
One of my favorite things about college was that it was nothing like high school. I absolutely hated high school. The only good thing that came out of it was that I met my now husband... other than that, my high school years were spent studying, avoiding classmates, traveling the country for horse shows and counting the days until I was out of there. I hated the cliques and drama and nosiness. College was much more my speed and I loved every minute of my 4 years of undergrad.
Law school surprised me by being a bit of a return to high school. You spend all day in classes with the same people, you have lockers, you generally hang out with your classmates in spare time.... lots of elements reminiscent of high school. I vastly prefer law school to high school but there are some overlaps I could do without. Law school can be kinda cliquey... I try to avoid it and be friendly with everyone but there are definitely cliques at my law school. Also, there can definitely be some drama.... putting a bunch of people together in a high-stress environment will always breed a bit of drama. While law school is not exactly like high school, it definitely brings back some elements from my high school years. However, I have had a much more positive experience in law school than I did in high school.... and despite this fact, law school retains quite a bit of the college atmosphere thank heavens. Regardless of your high school experience and any similarities between high school and law school, you can have a different experience. My law school experience has been really fun and I have met wonderful people and made lifelong memories. That is the polar opposite of my experience in high school. Make law school its own experience- it's not high school, it's not college so don't let those dictate how law school goes for you.
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Monday, August 20, 2018
Dealing with Social Anxiety in Law School
Happy Monday!
Today was my first day of 3L year. It is so hard to believe that this is my last year. This semester, I only have one class on Monday's so it was a pretty low-stress first day. This does lead me into my topic for today's blog though. The class I have on Monday's is Business Associations and it is one of the few classes I have had in law school where none of my close friends are taking it with me. This lead to me having a small anxiety attack when I got to class this morning and had to decide where to sit... alone. I know that seems a bit silly but regardless, there was a flash of panic when I walked into the classroom. Thankfully, it passed after a few deep breaths and I found a good seat toward the front near an acquaintance who has always been a sweetheart.
I think social anxiety is often overlooked. I know it took me a long time to realize that I was struggling with it. I would get so nervous about events that I couldn't sleep the night before as I laid awake overthinking every possible situation. I would stand in a room and imagine that everyone was thinking the worst about me or my smile was looking weird. After a social interaction, I overthink the interaction endlessly. As a person who has always struggled with social anxiety, law school has presented some interesting challenges. It is a high-stress environment to begin with so any anxiety on top of that is magnified. Walking into big lecture halls stresses me out because I am always afraid of doing something embarrassing like tripping and I am naturally very shy so networking events are my personal version of hell. In my time as a law student (and just growing older and wiser), I have figured out some tricks for dealing with my social anxiety, particularly in the stress of law school. These are not from a licensed medical professional, they are not exciting ideas and they may not work for everyone but these are the simple tricks that have helped me to deal with my social anxiety.
1. Practice Deep Breathing
I feel like everyone says this but it seriously does work. Like I said earlier in the post, a few deep breaths is one of the best ways to calm myself down when I am starting to get anxious. It is simple but for me, it really does help.
2. Think Happy Thoughts
I can fall into a pretty negative thought stream when I get anxious. One of the other simple tricks I use to combat my social anxiety is to simply think happy thoughts. I try to find something positive to focus on and avoid any anxious or negative thoughts by focusing on the positive. It doesn't have to be big; just a small positive thought to keep the anxiety at bay.
3. Start Small
Something I have used all along (even before law school) in my battle with social anxiety is to make small progress and call that a win. I will conquer one small thing I am anxious about and just keep doing that until I have accomplished the things that were causing my anxiety.
4. Fake it until you Make it
This is one of my favorite pieces of advice. If you fake it until you make it, no one will ever know how anxious you were. So sometimes, you just have to listen to some pump up music, give your self a pep talk, slap a smile on and fake it til you make it. For me, most of my anxiety is completely invisible to the average person so long as I fake it. This method has gotten me through a lot of networking events and the whole first week of law school.
5. Practice makes Perfect
I will say that just like anything, practice and repetition make it easier. The more networking events I attend, the easier they get. The longer I am a law student, the less cold calls stress me out. Fake it til you make it and eventually it will get easier. I don't think social certain situations will ever be easy for me, but they do get easier with practice.
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