Some Thoughts on Marriage

With the craziness of life right now, it snuck up on me that I will be married for 3 whole months in just a few days. It is hard to believe it has been that long; life has been a beautiful blur and newlywed life is pretty much the best. I just wanted to share a few of my thoughts about marriage at this point.

We had an over 2-year engagement... there came a point where I was so tired of being engaged and wedding planning that I just wanted to be married and done with it. Now that we have reached that point, I can't believe we waited so long. How did I survive saying goodbye to him each evening? How did I not go crazy in the evenings and on weekends alone? My hubby had to go away for the weekend recently and I was absolutely stir crazy the whole weekend... I didn't even know what to do without him. It is amazing how completely dependent on that person you become when you get married. Now don't get me wrong, I am a strong, independent woman and I don't "need" a man but it's really nice to come home to your best friend every night and wake up beside them every morning and know that that person will be there beside you for the rest of your life. Marriage is just so comfortable... knowing that he is there for me no matter what provides a sense of calm in a life of chaos and uncertainty.

Living with my new husband provides its own challenges along with the enjoyment. If he leaves the toilet seat up one more time I might scream. He never picks up his socks off the floor and he puts towels in the dirty clothes instead of hanging them back up. But all of those little things that annoy me are part of this crazy wonderful man I chose to spend my life with and so I might exclaim like a sailor before picking up those socks but at the end of the day, I would rather be picking up his socks and having to put the toilet seat down than be alone any day.

Marriage is full of compromise.... such as Sunday afternoons we eat chili and he watches a football game while I read beside him on the couch. Do I care about football? Not a bit. Do I like spending time with my hubby? Definitely. So we compromise: I don't have to watch the game and he mutes the commercials so I can read and comprehend my text and we get to spend the afternoon beside each other on the couch. It's a compromise but SO worth it. Instead of spending out Sunday afternoons screaming at each other to stop watching football or to stop reading in the office, we figured out a way to spend time together while we both have something to enjoy. Chili is just a bonus to this whole situation because a crockpot full of good chili is just a joy in life that should never be taken for granted. Meshing your life with another is not always easy and you will not always agree but that's just part of marriage... learn to compromise just a bit on little things to make the whole so much better.

We may be newlyweds but that doesn't mean fights don't happen. We fight, we disagree, we get annoyed and that's just a relationship. One bad fight or one bad day doesn't mean we aren't meant to be together, it just means we are humans. No matter what we fight about, it doesn't change the love that led us to marriage or the fact that we are happy together... it just means were human. If you expect marriage to be fight free and smooth sailing like a romantic comedy.... good luck. Marriage requires work and compromise and a lot of forgiving... but those are just parts of a wonderful thing that can make your life so much better.

Some people thought we were crazy for getting married at 22 years old... even though we dated for 6.5 years before our marriage. Now that were married and settled, all I have to say is this is more time I will get to spend married to my soulmate. We got married young and that just means we get to grow, change, evolve and continue to fall i love through our entire lives. Personally, I just don't see anything wrong with that.

So there you have it... my thoughts on marriage after (almost) 3 months. I am pretty happy with my decision to get married at 22 to my high school sweetheart because "forever can never be long enough for me, to feel like I've had long enough with you" (Marry Me- Train).

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